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Wednesday, September 4, 2019

Review: Normal People

Normal People Normal People by Sally Rooney
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

This is not a plot driven novel, more a series of characterological explorations. Both protagonists she follows throughout a life-span. The book and Rooney's narrative is oddly engaging, though not powerful or compelling; I will not remember this book and nor has it shifted my perspectives or my life. Is this too much to ask from a novel? Yes and No. The most beautiful pieces of literature are enduring and pierces the heart, rendering me better for having read it. This book, I kept reading and finished only because my other 'orders' from the library had not yet arrived. The title is aptly named, "Normal People," she elucidates in almost mundane detail, which most of us will be able to relate to. It has pathos and tragedy, which is all the more engaging because the "pathos" she describes is all of our lives, in each one of us. The BDSM ethos described is not at all about sex, but more about the psychological elements of growing up that led up to her developing this part of herself. It will challenge those readers who have a definitive, judgy, and closed view of the BDSM community, hopefully recognizing that there are legitimate reasons why people are drawn to these practices. Rooney is a you g writer and I expect that as she hones her craft, she'll develop further. For now, this novel is a higher than average decent read.

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Sunday, August 25, 2019

Review: The Road

The Road The Road by Cormac McCarthy
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I don't usually read post-apocalyptic stuff. But this--this is transcendent. McCarthy is a master storyteller and sculpts his words to fashion perfection. I was moved to cry many many times, my breath stilled at how raw and real, the stripped down bare beauty and humanity of it. The kindness and empathy, the love in austere hate and soot and ugly dirt. I would never have thought I could love a book as much as I do this. It's a testimony to the power of his writing--his style so lean, it makes Hemingway look like Dickens. His prose is almost poetry, mesmerizing and hypnotic. I just finished reading the last page, so perfect, I willed it to be the last sentence because it felt like the perfect musical note, the most ripe melody on which to end a song. The plotting and content of this will not beckon anyone, but the gorgeousness of the writing, the sheer lilt, the love in exchange between father and son, everything from the coke can to the baked beans and water, to those last few pages of of canned peaches. I will never think of peaches --canned or fresh--ever again. I will never not want to share. Now with all that's happening in our country and world, now more than ever, each page struck my heart with terror for our planet. It seemed more real than not, that our world will come to an end, and that's the scary part--that it didn't seem like a future sci-fi reality, but very much a present cataclysmic event around the corner. I have never read anything remotely like this, and I doubt I ever will: his writing is beyond reproach, beyond anything I've ever come across--lean and spare, masculine, strong and supple, muscular punchy packed dense sentences. Nothing extraneous, barely any punctuation and little use for attributing the speaker to the sentence. Oddly, it works beautifully. Normally this would've been too bare for me, but it has an unexpected elegance to the writing. It's literary and will forever stand the test of time, for the writing g alone, and add to it, the content, it's one of the most top five most continually current pieces of literature out there. It should be required reading for high schoolers learning about climate change, it ought to be required reading in English lit, and in science class, and in every other class I can think of. After I finished it, I googled McCarthy and was shocked to learn he won the Pulitzer Prize for literature with this novel. Why am I not one bit surprised? He deserves it. Every damn sentence is a gem, an incandescent light sparkles off every page. I tore this book as if literally there is no tomorrow, as the McCarthy writes about. I could not read it fast enough, as if someone might snatch the paperback away from my fingers. I'm head over heels seriously in love with this, my heart heavy with grief over what we humans, our species does to each other and to this fragile world we step on. I somersaulted into this book and came out the other end a radically changed person--for the better. You will be too. Please please read it.




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Tuesday, August 20, 2019

Review: The Last House Guest

The Last House Guest The Last House Guest by Megan Miranda
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

I enjoyed it while I was reading it, was engaged while in it, but after a few days, I'd be hard pressed to remember much of it. It's not especially riveting, won't change your life, the writing not especially elevated and neither is the plot propulsive or original. I find the whole thing forgettable, thoughI definitely found it worthy of flipping one page after another, to finish reading it within a couple of days. Based on this book, I can't say I'm motivated to go seek out Miranda's other works. It's a solid beach read and a pleasant past-time. If you want more, this will not be your ticket.

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Monday, August 19, 2019

Review: Making Contact: Uses of Language in Psychotherapy

Making Contact: Uses of Language in Psychotherapy Making Contact: Uses of Language in Psychotherapy by Leston Havens
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I adore this book. In grad school in my psychology program, it influenced me beyond what I can describe. Havens writes from an interpersonal, subjective, phenomenological, linguistic perspective. The empathy he heaps on the subject matter--and on his clients--is a marvel. He describes and elucidates with such clarity his language choices, the way he talks to clients, his choice of words, phrases and questions, his statements. Always, he was mindful of not making the client feel accused and to extract maximum information while being optimally therapeutic. His words, as he teaches, drips with kindness and gentleness; his presence itself is healing, and somehow he magically transfers and embodies this in his writing. This book became lodged in my soul and I took to heart his way of Being, to the point that each time I'm with a client, his words reinforce who I already was. I fell more than a little bit in love with, oddly one of my guiding theoretical idols. The world of psychiatry and psychology was lucky he chose these realms. He gifted us, beyond the arc of people he directly touched, to those us who indirectly benefited from his wisdom. Please, if you're in the profession--or about to go into it, do yourself a favor and read it. If you're a client in therapy, read it and share with your therapist. If you're not in therapy but contemplating it, read it for it surely will tempt you to take the therapeutic plunge :-) And if you fit in neither of these groups and simply want a terrific read by a master of storytelling with prose as clear as lake, read it.

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Sunday, August 18, 2019

Review: All Quiet on the Western Front

All Quiet on the Western Front All Quiet on the Western Front by Erich Maria Remarque
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I cannot lavish enough praise on this work of art, true literature. Gorgeously written, sentences shimmer, heart and characterization without peer. This is not the sort of book I'd normally be drawn to--war and descriptions of it, not my thing. But my husband extolled the virtues and it piqued my curiosity. Wow. Remarque can write--I got lost in the content and the artistry and beauty of the depictions of battle, the humanity of it all. This should be required reading for everyone at any age, but especially the formative ones.

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Review: Lord of the Flies

Lord of the Flies Lord of the Flies by William Golding
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Every child should read this. Every bully should read this. Every bullied child should read this. Damn, this rocked my world, more now as I reflect on having read it than when I actually read it in junior high, when frankly, I was too young to appreciate this. I amend my earlier statement: every child should read and then re-read it periodically as they develop--and they should truly get it. As a metaphor for society, it just doesn't get any better than this. And btw, our so called "president," Trump, needs a primer course on this book. He needs to read it, and digest every pulpy sentence on each page.

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Review: Plato: Complete Works

Plato: Complete Works Plato: Complete Works by Plato
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Read it in college, as a philosophy (double) major with psychology--and this launched me down a ideological and theoretical quagmire, a maelstrom of questioning and then some. I fell in love with Plato's notion fo the "ideal." Imagine a fresh faced 18 year old, with little real life experience, wanting to believe that everything has an ideal version of the thing itself, so taken was I with this, I equated it with fact. Thank-god I came out of this phase, but reading this tome is an ambitious project. You may as well forget reading anything else for a while. It's dense and requires commitment. If you're inclined to philosophy and non-fiction, this is for you, though you'd also have to be partial to early Greek notions where it all began. It's very well structured, logically presented, and well-written, if a bit dry.

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Review: You Are Not a Stranger Here

You Are Not a Stranger Here You Are Not a Stranger Here by Adam Haslett
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Stunning, I don't have sufficient superlatives. This changed my reading life, never did I think I could so completely be swept away into a universe of pain and come out humbled. I'm usually not a huge fan of short stories, but this collection is exceptional. Each story is a novella, rich beyond the scope of a few pages. Each short has imagery that you'll likely never forget. I read it decades ago, when it was first published and I remember the characters, the visuals with such detail and specificity, it's a gut punch. Please, if you never read a short story collection, make an exception for this. You will not regret the artistry and beauty.

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Friday, August 16, 2019

Review: The Man Who Ate Everything

The Man Who Ate Everything The Man Who Ate Everything by Jeffrey Steingarten
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Erudite and dense as all hell, a prize of a book, chockfull of everything you ever wanted to know about food and beyond: it's almost as if he writes with association and stream of consciousness, but imagine it structured, logical, with tributaries everywhere. I adored this book, it met the part of me who loves to organize, structure and catalog ideology and thought. He approaches it scientifically and with so such fun, it's infectious. It's a bit of a tome and densely packed but don't let that deter you: once in, you'll get hooked.

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Review: Heat: An Amateur's Adventures as Kitchen Slave, Line Cook, Pasta-Maker, and Apprentice to a Dante-Quoting Butcher in Tuscany

Heat: An Amateur's Adventures as Kitchen Slave, Line Cook, Pasta-Maker, and Apprentice to a Dante-Quoting Butcher in Tuscany Heat: An Amateur's Adventures as Kitchen Slave, Line Cook, Pasta-Maker, and Apprentice to a Dante-Quoting Butcher in Tuscany by Bill Buford
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Irreverent and funny, off the cuff spontaneity, beautifully written with an excellent ear for dialogue and gives a rollicking deep dive into food, specifically Italian,. I dare you to read this book and not become as gluttonous for Italian food as I did. I seriously could not get enough, his descriptions beyond crystal, specific, with a bit of vulnerability thrown in.

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Review: The Apprentice: My Life in the Kitchen

The Apprentice: My Life in the Kitchen The Apprentice: My Life in the Kitchen by Jacques Pépin
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Full of verve, love and passion for food yes, but Pepin burst with enthusiasm, lifts veils off an era of training as a chef in France. If you love food, dining out, curious about the restaurant culture, or simply want to be transported in a micro-culture of a surprisingly hierarchical model of apprenticing as a chef, the abuse therein--yes, I think it's definitely verbally abusive, but that's the price the "interns" pay to rise up the ranks, learn their art and craft, and give themselves over to creating the morsels we put in our mouths. Loved it.

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Review: The Hidden Life of Trees: What They Feel, How They Communicate – Discoveries from a Secret World

The Hidden Life of Trees: What They Feel, How They Communicate – Discoveries from a Secret World The Hidden Life of Trees: What They Feel, How They Communicate – Discoveries from a Secret World by Peter Wohlleben
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Every factoid is magical and remarkable. Just the title of it, e.g. they "communicate" with each other? Who knew? And so so so much more, a world of intrigue and secrets in the forest, a language all their own. I've been in love with trees for so long, and have wanted to know more and more--this book delivers and then some. Get this: the scientific study of trees is termed "dendrology!" But when you think of it, what else could it possibly be called? Each tree with its branches, bark and trunk ... all of it looked at from both a macro and micro level--resembles our brain, the neurons, synapses ... and yes--dendrites, hence "dendrology." So damn cool. I wish I could takes a course and trust me, I tried to hunt one down but no luck. This book is the next best thing, and maybe better; you can peruse at your own speed, in your way, for your reasons. And whatever your reasons for picking up this jewel, you cannot do better than this. Thank you Wohlleben!

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Review: The Hidden Life of Dogs

The Hidden Life of Dogs The Hidden Life of Dogs by Elizabeth Marshall Thomas
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This is a wonder, a gem literally and metaphorically leaping into the world of dogs. She as much meticulous observer and researcher of dogs, as she is a mother to them. Her dedication to learning about them and above all, forging rich relationships with them, this commitment leaps off the page. She talks of furtively following them at midnight in an effort to know what she otherwise might not. This is about as great as it gets, and btw., I do not have a dog nor have I ever and do not plan to get a dog (a shame, I know), but I was drawn to this because I'm curious about this world, which she describes with such love. Many many books have been written about dogs, but this special--the tone, the structure, Thomas' fascination and abiding passion drenches each page.

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Review: The Vegetarian

The Vegetarian The Vegetarian by Han Kang
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This is nothing like I've ever read before, a stunning achievement, both for its narrative and execution as much as for its translation from the original Korean. I fell headlong in love with this book: it's one of the most luscious, sensual (not sexual), richly detailed journeys ever. One women's rapid commitment to her truth, and her intersection between her micro culture of her family and the larger demands of her the society she's in. This is brimming with rich entries into the sensate, a deep exploration of motivation and ethics, of hunger to be oneself, as metaphor for physical appetite. This is a narrative that can be interpreted in multiple ways, especially in the current climate of the 'MeToo' movement. There's no real villain or hero here, just deeply drawn characters, for whom we feel. Riveting and pure, unapologetic in tone and content, this slim little tale will leave you riveted and depleted in the best way possible. I cannot recommend it heartily enough.

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Review: When Breath Becomes Air

When Breath Becomes Air When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Gorgeously written, a shimmer over the sentences, this surgeon was as handy with the word as he is with the scalpel. It's a difficult read in that it forced me to confront the ever present death lurking behind every corner, this life could be taken away with the next breath. Kalanithi is erudite and eloquent, peels back the covers on his own dying experience as it intersects with being inside the medicine. His account of being "outside" the profession as a patient is moving and scary because in some sense, this is all of us he writes about. It's not just his experience but that of humanity. Loved this autobiography written as literature, as memoir and part educated musings. It's deceptively dense, both stylistically and content-wise.

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Review: Blood, Bones, and Butter: The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Chef

Blood, Bones, and Butter: The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Chef Blood, Bones, and Butter: The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Chef by Gabrielle Hamilton
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This is a bit reminiscent of Kitchen Confidential, though not as raw and own and dirty (but then what restaurant account could possibly come remotely close to Bourdain)? It's unfair of me to compare. Hamilton's account of being in the restaurant world is gripping, an adjective I usually reserve for other fitting genres such as suspense, thriller and mystery. Somehow she makes it work and this is a work you'll devour, as hungrily as some of the meals and food she describes :-)

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Review: Service Included: Four-Star Secrets of an Eavesdropping Waiter

Service Included: Four-Star Secrets of an Eavesdropping Waiter Service Included: Four-Star Secrets of an Eavesdropping Waiter by Phoebe Damrosch
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

You will devour this as a big greedy noshing gulp, it's full to the gills with juicy, salacious details about this woman experience as a server in some fine and not so fine restaurants. A plucky and true to life heroine as any, written in a conversation and down to earth, breezy style, you'll polish this off in one sitting, and will get special satisfaction if you love dining out.

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Review: Fever

Fever Fever by Mary Beth Keane
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

This is the predecessor to her current 2019 novel, not a biographical novel, but based on the historical events about "typhoid Mary." What's beguiling about Keane is her uncanny ability to dig deep into her characters, speak through their skin. I'm giving it 3 stars because something about it wasn't sufficiently propulsive, though to be fair, it's possible that if I took this novel on its own merit, and if I had never read her 2019 work, I'd likely give it 4 stars. Please don't let my rating dissuade you. It's as fine a piece of writing as any. She has a sure and deft touch, describes like a dream. a master craftswoman with a sentence :-)

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Wednesday, August 14, 2019

Review: Cop in the Hood: My Year Policing Baltimore's Eastern District

Cop in the Hood: My Year Policing Baltimore's Eastern District Cop in the Hood: My Year Policing Baltimore's Eastern District by Peter Moskos
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This is as great as you'd want it to be, everything you hope for when a university professor steps out of the classroom and into his "real-life lab," on the streets. It is beyond enormous to get a spot on the not only the police academy, but to actually pass it, and be a beat cop. It is frikkin hard, mentally and physically punishing to get through police training--6 months at the academy and 6 months being shadowed, before finally going it solo. We civilians don't get the full magnitude of what it takes and undervalue the import of our officers hard at work. Moskos is remarkable., his writing crystalline and pure, raw from lived experience. He lived to write about every nuance of what it's like to walk those streets, danger lurking around every corner, when he left his front door and stepped out of his patrol car, not knowing if he'd make it back alive. Damn. That's intense and then some. He humanizes everything, not that it needs it. Every civilian should read this book--nothing will cure us faster of referring to police as "pigs." Some respect, right?

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Tuesday, August 13, 2019

Review: Howard Stern Comes Again

Howard Stern Comes Again Howard Stern Comes Again by Howard Stern
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I referred to Marc Maron as an "acquired taste," but Stern is an even tougher sell. Why? His reputation as "shock jock" precedes him, not in a good way. He sorta rose to fame being over the top vulgar and obnoxiously disrespectful, uncouth and brazen, all about nothing but sex, maybe misogynistic. You might be wondering, "what the hell would I even want to bother?" I always had a sense about him, an intuitive feel that there were so many layers down other, more than he was letting us in on. This book is his latest--and it's special. It's the product of him having gone to psychotherapy for many years and introspecting analytically and deeply about himself, his motivations, his insecurities. In this book, not only does he pick his favorite interviews, he builds a personal context for each of them, and shares his vulnerabilities with us. He's not play acting here, not out to make a quick buck, not out to sell his book. No--he shows us his heart and just how bad he feels about himself, how harshly he criticizes himself, which is partly what drives him. He talks about his complex relationship with his other growing up and how this shaped his comedy. Stern has grown up, taken responsibility for his life and he lets us peek under the hood of his psyche. We're the lucky ones here, and if we feed his ego in helping book sales, so be it. The man has more than earned it. Why are we here, after all, if not to help one another, right, in whatever small measure? You'll love each interview: the most special ability and unique feature of the interviews is Stern's ability to go "meta-level." He frequently comments on not just the content , but the process of the interview, and artfully draws the interviewee out a bit more. Stern is so loveable, so vulnerable--his kind and good heart leaps of the page. My litmus test: do I want to meet him? Since I very rarely want to meet any celebrity, I' leap at the chance to meet him just to thank him for doing this work, and give him a hug of gratitude :-)

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